Saturday, December 09, 2006

Stop Saying "I Want to Find a Girlfriend" and Find One! by Odalis Bitterroot

If you find yourself saying "I want to find a girlfriend" repeatedly, you need to take action. Instead of spending your days lamenting your loneliness, it's time to get out there and meet someone. The odds of the girl of your dreams knocking on your door before you finish reading this article are very low. If you want to find a girlfriend, you're going to have to do something.
Easier said than done, right? If it were that easy, every guy would have a blonde on his arm and no one would be sitting at home on a Friday night. If you have been chanting "I want to find a girlfriend," you already know that you have to be proactive.
Chances are that you already know what you have to do, too. It isn't a mystery. In order to meet someone--that special someone who might turn out to be "the one"--you are going to have to approach her. Getting the girl usually involves making that first contact. Approaching potential girlfriends successfully is the key to keeping busy on the weekends and adding a romantic dimension to your life.
So, you know you have to take action. You also know that the first action is approaching the women you find interesting. What's the problem?
The problem is that many men find it exceedingly difficult to approach women. They are insecure, unsure of themselves, shy or fear rejection so much that they don't make that essential first move. Even those guys who do have the guts to make an approach often handle the situation so horribly that they are shot down in a heartbeat.
If you want to find a girlfriend, you need to learn how to overcome your fears and to approach women masterfully.
At least one author, Joseph Matthews, argues that mastering the approach is all about re-learning what makes a man attractive to women and to embody the ideal that will make guys irresistibly attractive while giving them the confidence to approach a woman. He maintains that society's lessons about how to appeal to women hamstring guys and that a different approach is more likely to land the ladies.
Whether you agree with Matthews' assessment, which you can investigate free of charge through a multiple-part "crash course" on The Art of the Approach, or feel that you just need a little jolt of confidence, it does pay to increase your comfort level and skills with respect to approaching others.
If you can develop a quality approach technique and the confidence necessary to implement it, you won't be muttering "I want to find a girlfriend" again!

About the Author
Odalis wants you to know that you can stop saying "I want to find a girlfriend" and can get busy finding one today! He recommends starting with Joseph Matthew's respected FREE "crash course," The Art of the Approach. You CAN get the girl

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